i think my anxiety has started to haunt me in more aspects of my life … when i feel i’ve grown in one way … i backtrack in 2 more.
today it feels a bit unmanageable.
i got off work a bit early and went to do something i’d been putting off for months … and that is go to the thrift store and try to get some new clothes that fit right. currently, i have 2 pairs of pants i feel okay in … and now amidst all my clothes that are too small … these pairs of pants are starting to get too big.
i was walking around the aisles … it was not helpful that for whatever reason, it was super busy in there. i managed to grab a couple pairs but none of which i really liked. and if i didn’t really like them … then why try them on? that was the excuse i used anyway. really, i think it’s because i was afraid that they wouldn’t fit … i would get mad, cry, and that would trigger me to injure. i put them back and walked out.
i spent enough time in there (probably not even 30 minutes) that it thoroughly wore me out and i decided i wasn’t going to go anywhere else. i decided i’d die in the clothes that i have whether or not they flatter me.
target … didn’t know what i wanted, but drove through the parking lot and ended up at …
next stop – china buffet. i sat in the parking space … trying to reason in my head … i thought i kinda wanted hot and sour soup, but i didn’t want it bad enough to walk in. i didn’t want to talk to the people. i was afraid i wouldn’t get what i wanted. i was afraid i’d order cream cheese wontons or chicken lo mein besides the soup and gorge when i got home, thus, furthering my problem of clothes not fitting. i tried to reason that – well, i could just wear pajama pants or sweats all the time. i backed out and left …
next stop – liquor store … i stopped there on a semi-impulse decision … kinda because i was annoyed and wanted to drink. i wasn’t happy walking up to the door … i got mid-way, took out my phone, stared at the screen … to find nothing of interest … but at least i made it look important when i turned around and walked back to my van. i thought of calling someone … but i know if i had done that and not gotten an answer, THEN i would have surely bought the alcohol cause i could justify it somehow. also, if i couldn’t cut, then i would drink … and people would just have to deal.
i left the liquor store … big apple bagels was next. if you’ve spent any great deal of time with me, you might know that i love some sort of cheese bagel with x-tra green olive cream cheese. i do love it … but the idea didn’t thrill me … even so, i continued on to my next destination … and drove right past. i reasoned that i had one on thursday night … i didn’t need another. my stomach would bulge out. i would have better luck fitting into my clothes if i didn’t eat …
now … i’m home. i’m worn out, hungry, thirsty, needy … yet not motivated to do anything about anything.
i’m motivated to cut – that’s about it. naturally, that would be my reaction. it is my reaction. i can see myself doing it constantly with great detail. though, i’m not physically doing it these days … i’m mentally doing it … all the time. you’d think that’d be enough.
it’s always about trying to control the things that control me.
i am wigged out. i hope i can relax and try again tomorrow.
i will work cleaning kennels tomorrow … the animals need me. and that feels good.